Is marriage dead? I came across this question in an article I was reading today. The article argued that it wasn't dead, it was just changed. In other words, marriage isn't a sort of thing that lasts anymore. In further research, there seemed to be a lot of people who thought that shacking up together was just a better deal than tying the knot, particularly for men. Getting tied up in marriage can lose a man his ass, these days with trends in divorce law, they say. Why take the risk. Besides, the old adage is still true: "why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free". Many people said that it beat the way that things used to be: people got abused a lot, they say, and people got stuck in marriages they weren't happy in. Maybe marriage is dead, others argue, but who really cares? Why hold on to the fantastical fancy of 'true love' and 'till death do us part', everyone knows that half of marriages fail anyway?

I am not in this camp. While, I agree that marriage seems to be coming apart around me, I have the foolish inclination to just... believe all that nonsense about true love and happily ever after. I want it. I want to be hand in hand with the one I love on my golden anniversary, I want to have someone strong and loving by my side through the good times and the bad. I'll accept having to shout with him, if only I can have the privilege of forgiving him. I'll accept his illnesses his injuries and his death so long as I can share his life and his health. I have decided all that... and I haven't even met this person. I don't know his name or where he came from or anything about him, but I know... I know that if I love him, I want him to be with me in these things and I know that when I find him, he will want the same things. So, fool that I may be, heresy against nature, I am going to try and commit a miracle: I am going to find and stay in love.

I am not entirely alone either. Apparently, commited married people report better financial stability, better health and better sex than other people. I hope things turn around and turn around before marriage is just a word, tainted by controversial politics. So, I end here... with hoping.

Three cheers!
:D
» middaymoon on 2008-05-29 10:25:52

i'm sure u will get ur soulmate.


» renaye on 2008-05-30 08:50:18

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